Tranny dating - is it as simple as it is for the non TG population?

         Not at all - particularly for the pre-op among us. There is the obvious difference in the nether regions that needs to be explained, if you get my drift. And it is probably better being explained BEFORE the situation reaches the "well, what have we got here???" stage. So, this means dating for the transgendered is more dangerous than usual, as there are so many rednecks and mentally unstable guys around still. And even before getting to that stage, transgendered women need to have got comfortable with their sexuality - in my case I had been 10 years quite happy in a male/female relationship with a woman. Apart from a brief unsatisfactory gay encounter in my late teens, I'd never been intimate with a guy before. In January 2003, a man had shown enough interest in me to get to the stage where he was about to find out what I really should be tellin him. I had stopped him from cuddling and explained why I thought it important that he know my situation before things went any further. There is the doubt in your mind that you will maybe not be able to function as a female in that situation, as it's an unknown reaction. Thankfully for me,he had already worked me out, and had been waiting for me to speak up. Once we had that settled, things continued seemingly unchanged and the teen experience I had was NOT repeated. The experience allowed me to just let my feminine instincts kick in freely. It turned out to be a satisfactory  experience for both parties. It also got repeated a couple more times. He was good for me because he treated me as simply a female, and made me feel desirable. It did wonderes for my confidence. He had been a drifter, and drifted off to the country after that. I was sad because he left, but also glad knowing he hadn't left because of me. I'm now nicely setup to go forward and find my true soul mate, confident that intimacy is not going to be a problem for me, at least.

Later - now I am post operative, and the assumption would be that having to tell people of my past is no longer necessary. The reality however, is not so simple. I have had one brief encounter with a man who had no idea of my past until I told him, and he hasnt contacted me since I did. This is a 2 edged sword - on one hand it is a positive sign that he didnt know, even though he had been intimate with me. On the other hand, it hurts me that he couldnt handle my past. This raises the question "should I tell them at all?" At the moment, I still feel obliged to give them the choice, (something I dont have......) If they are going to have an issue with my past, its better we ALL know sooner rather than later. While this means I will probably stay single for a while, it also means that when I DO find a man who can accept me as I am now (in spite of what I was before), it will be a realtionship founded on tust and honesty. I would rather be alone than have a relationship with this missing.